Love & Forgiveness

Hello, I know its been a while . Have been busy being a mum ,wife and everything in-between while also working on my website,Justsaying.London will soon be ready .

Lets talk about Love and Forgiveness. Do you forgive because you love or do you love because you forgive?Forgiveness is not easy I know ,however once you have taken that bold step to forgive you find out that you are a happier person as opposed to bearing or carrying unforgiveness.

To Love or Forgive is a choice.However when you choose to forgive ,do you forget?.As difficult as it is to forgive , I believe its possible to forget with time but one should never forget the Lesson learned.
When someone hurts or betrays you ,things can never be the same again. A scar is left behind no matter how many times they apologise .Even after the healing process, the scar will always be there whatever the offence. Its like a broken plate even if you manage to fix it back together, you can still see the cracks.

How do you deal with forgiveness, does it come easy to you? According to a friend Love makes forgiveness easy.As for me,depending on the offence shaa I am quick to forgive ,take the lesson learned and move on. I have discovered that holding on to unforgiveness limits you and blinds you from experiencing joy.

Just saying.

Cut the Cord

While we are commanded to love all men, you must be guided with the understanding that you are not designed to fit into everyone. - Stanley Jonas.

I got that quote from a  good friend of mine and it got me thinking about a certain Lady I called a friend.
Be around people who bring out the best in you. Have you been around people Who constantly want to pull or bring you down.
They seem to bring the worst out of you and when that happens you don't even recognise yourself.

I know you guys  don't know anyone like that right.
Looking back I wonder why I put up with her.  Tolerance? Maybe,When I figure out why I will let you know.

These people can never be happy for or with you, however they pretend to,but you can tell.
If you allow them they will destroy your zest for life. They have a way of sucking all your energy.
They always cause strife ,thinking they can diminish your confidence.
Their presence  alone seem to stir up conflict.

In our journey in life  I believe some people can become a burden or dead weight.
How do you cut them of without being mean ?
Tell me ,how do you determine when to end the relationship,whether it is with a spouse,a friend ,your sister or brother.

💞I know you are suppose to forgive those who hurt you and abuse you.
But where Do you draw the line?

As for me I strongly believe that you should love some people from a distance.
I am all for loyalty and supporting each other, but there comes a time when you have to let some relationships go.
I am just saying cut the cord that binds you to them, enjoy yourself in this journey called Life.
Surround yourself with people who will bring the best in you,  people that encourage ,motivate, and inspire you,people who make you want to become a better you.
Just Saying.

Words

One of the most powerful things  are Words, Yet Some people say Words mean nothing.
The Words we speak can bring Life or death.
The Words we speak can turn situations around for good or bad.
Some people are so full of defeat because of what comes out of their mouth.

If the Creator of this universe spoke it into existence , I believe  We have the authority and power to speak certain things into existence as well.

 I am just saying some Folks are just bad news, they never have anything good or positive to say about anything or anyone, not even themselves.
 I was  told about a guy wearing this T-shirt, guess what was written on it....''LOSER''.
The definition of a loser is a person who is defeated or disadvantaged , is habitually failing or who is considered unpopular.
 How can you call yourself a conspicuous failure , a blunder, a Flop , a mistake .
 How can a human being wear something like that, As my people will say  '' Na wah for the guy oooo''.

Some people go about saying Laugh wan Kill me die, what does that even mean.
Anyway I am only saying think before you open your mouth to speak.
Speak Faith filled words, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

Just Saying.

Can you really Know someone

We think we know someone  and then we realise that we don't know them at all, we like to think that we know what we want and sometimes we are right , but Life has a funny way of telling us Otherwise.
Trust is broken and the things we used to find exciting ,now offends us.
Families are torn apart, Friendships fade  away, Marriages are broken , Why that happens I have no idea .

Can we really and truly know anyone deeply , apart from yourself. Some people don't even know what they are capable of , let alone another person.

Just Saying